Dealing with an affair in your relationship can seem like an impossible task as the specter of your partner’s infidelity eats away at the bonds that hold your relationship together. It can seem like you can never have the same trust as you once did and life will never be back to like it was before … and it never will be but that is what you must first deal with!
Realizing that life is and will always be different now is the most important step you can take for a few reasons that tie into every part of surviving, recovering and dealing with infidelity. Some of these reasons are listed below:
- You are not dwelling on the past - To be free of an affair constantly thinking back on the negative feelings you have and the reasons behind the affair simply mire you to negative thoughts and create stress and anger long beyond what may be healthy.
- Life as it was may have led to the affair - As hard as this may be to accept, your life before your partner cheated on you and became emotionally and/or sexually involved with someone else may have led to a relationship breakdown that facilitated the affair. This does NOT excuse their behavior at ALL mind you … but it may have created fertile ground for them to do the things they did.
- Wishing for things as they were stop you moving forward - Living in the past stops you moving forward and if you want to be dealing with an affair in a productive way that allows you to heal your relationship you must be willing to talk about the past and the reasons for their unfaithfulness even if it hurts and use this information to move forward and get beyond the hurt and anger not by forgetting but by understanding your partner on a new level and your relationship in a new light.
So if you are living in misery after the affair and want more information on how to get past the anger and pain and rebuild trust and love in your relationship click below to find guides written by expert councilors that can give you a roadmap to recovery.
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